I totally get it. You’re frustrated.
And rightfully so.
The man you said your “I do’s” to doesn’t seem to be maturing into the man you pictured growing old with.
As life brings your marriage through the crucible of time, the person with whom you share a bed and a home appears to be traveling on a different trajectory than the path you had hoped for back when you tied the knot.
A long time ago he was your best friend, but now you wonder if he even shares your highest values anymore — if he does, it’s hard to…
“The point is to master the habit of showing up.”
I have often looked around at some of the writers and creators around me and thought, “If that person has the ability to spew out thousands of words at a time, publish an article every day, and be a model of consistency — surely I can too, right?”
Perhaps, but it’s not that simple.
Maybe you find yourself in this category.
You have the best intentions. You know are a capable writer. You like to tell stories and you are generally a good communicator, but when it comes…
“We realize that by trying to build a bridge between two sides, it means we might get walked on from both ends.”
— Toby Slough
What team are you on?
This is what the world wants to know right now.
You may have already abandoned social media.
You may have closed the valve to your daily news intake.
Perhaps you have even locked yourself in your home at this point with the blinds drawn.
You know that if you step out into the light — but choose to remain silent — everyone will say that you might as well have…
“When the people of Israel saw it, they said to one another, “What is it?” For they did not know what it was. And Moses said to them, “It is the bread that the Lord has given you to eat.” (Exodus 16:15, HCSB)
I have a friend who is an attorney.
She says that often when conducting formal depositions with witnesses, at the end of every conversation, attorneys will pose one additional question in order to verify nothing has been left unsaid:
“Is there anything else I should know?”
This question is powerful.
It is also a really helpful question…
“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.”
Have you ever tried dropping a bad habit?
Those morning donuts in the conference room every day?
That McDonald’s dollar menu combination you keep binging on at lunch?
The Instagram feed you check at every stoplight?
Of course you have.
If you are a creature of the human variety, then you know what it is to wrestle with a pesky vice.
You know of that little monster.
The one which should be easy to control, but for whatever reason, controls you…
“Becoming Christlike is a lifetime pursuit and very often involves growth and change that is slow, almost imperceptible.”
Does it feel like we should be halfway through the year already?
It’s almost as though we went away for Spring Break and woke up on the eve of Independence day weekend.
At the same time, when we look back at all we have taken on the chin so far this year, it seems a decade’s worth of challenges has been packed into just these last few months.
Summer has definitely arrived, though.
In Texas we are already in…
“I wouldn’t want to bring a kid into this crazy world right now.”
— Miranda Lambert
You have been forced to take a pay cut.
You have been furloughed from your job — or you have lost it altogether.
Perhaps your loved ones are sick.
Those right wingers are ignoring systemic racism again. Or maybe those Left wingers are exploiting and politicizing tragedy again.
Your favorite sports are on hiatus.
The country is in a recession.
You are bracing for another poisonous election cycle.
There is much uncertainty in the world. The stress in your life is at maximum capacity…
I don’t usually write essays like this.
I had planned on publishing a different article this week — something in the vein of “How to organize your learning life.”
My writing space is typically reserved for things like that — ways to live more purposefully and intentionally. How to find your calling. How to find more joy in your career. How to safeguard your marriage or be a better spouse.
Truthfully, I would rather be writing about these things. Perhaps you would rather be reading about that stuff too.
People with my personality do not enjoy stirring up a ruckus…
“We are, all of us, utterly committed and deeply devoted to our “style”, our “way”, our “approach to life.”
We have absolutely no intention of giving it up. Not even for love. So God creates an environment where we have to. It’s called marriage.”
I officiated my first Pandemic wedding last month.
It was obviously not the original plan.
I had been given the impromptu request by family members to take my best swing at putting together a brief yet memorable Christian ceremony for them.
This couple’s original intentions had been chewed up and spit out by The…
“Life is like a story, you’ve only got so many pages, so use them well.” — Kaisley Grace Martin
Above is a picture of the chalkboard we have hanging up in our kitchen right now. On it is an original quote and drawing by my imaginative 10-year-old daughter.
Oh, the wisdom of children.
She is right, of course. Every day that passes is another page filling up our own little short story on this side of eternity.
And yet, somehow with the onset of this global COVID-19 pandemic, we feel our stories are suddenly on hold — as if furloughed…